Though my youngest will be headed to college in the fall, aFh recently persuaded me to attend another parenting talk. Over the years, I have attended more of these things than I can count. Often I come away with a tidbit of advice that I have good intentions of imposing in my home. More often, though, I find myself recalling that wise morsel after I have failed to heed the advice and someone is suffering the consequences.
Rosalind Wiseman was the latest speaker to spur me into a note-taking frenzy as I could relate to so many of her words. Having spent many years working with young people, Wiseman is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World, the best-selling basis for the movie Mean Girls, as well as Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World. Most recently she has written with assistance from over 200 teenage guys this e-guide for boys to help them navigate difficult situations in high school,
Ms. Wiseman reminds parents that our children have to experience conflict to learn how to handle it and recommends that parents share their own stories of personal disappointment and humiliation, as well as how they turn to others when they need help.
Rosalind highlights the following four requirements necessary for a person to find happiness. Instantly these requirements, which I have labelled ingredients, resonated with me as the essential elements that I pray my children will find in their own pursuits of happiness.
As I face the speed-parenting and virtual parenting challenges that Ellen described in Four Strategies for Surviving the Empty Nest, I am adding this graphic to our Gracious Inspiration Pinterest board in hopes that I can recall the appropriately- monikered Ms. Wiseman’s words of advice for creating happiness when I most need them.